Join me in congratulating Kim!
Kim is 50 years old, married her high school sweetheart at 22, and four years ago her marriage came to an end. She’s just started this amazing relationship with the man she has been dreaming about. But it wasn’t always an easy path to love… here’s Kim’s story in her own words…
“I have been dating for a little over 3 years now. I had zero dating experience because, I married my high school love. I was so naive that my friends were very worried and made me check in regularly during every date!
Over the past 3 years I am sure I have muttered every one of your sentiments posted here…good and bad.
However what I learned with the help of Deb Boulanger, is that I was in control of my dating. If online felt yucky, I closed the account…. But I am very thankful for every time that I went back and dated because I learned about ME.
I learned what I liked and didn’t like. I know I have ZERO control of anyone else but I know I can say “yes please” or “no thank you” and feel good about myself.
As I continued to learn from my dating and got more clear and filtered out the “no thank you”s, I noticed my attitude towards online and dating in general got so much better and I looked at each date as a learning experience. And magically the quality of men improved.
About three months ago I meet (yes, online) the guy in the picture with me. He is a super sweet guy who amazingly hit every bullet on my Values List!
We were pretty smitten with each other immediately and on date two we decided to be exclusive and see where the relationship could go. It felt right for the two of us and that is what mattered. The relationship is fun and easy and 100% enjoyable as it should be.
I found when I stayed positive and took breaks [from online dating] to reassess when needed, that the resistance to the process was about me and I listened to myself and adjusted accordingly.”
What should you take away from Kim’s success?
- You are in control of your experience. It’s not that there are “no good men out there,” or “all men my age want younger women.” Your ideal partner is out there searching for you. If you are online and having a ‘bad’ experience, adjust your approach and your strategies. Get help when you need it.
- Learn from each date you have. There is no such thing as a ‘bad’ date. It’s all contrast. Revel in and appreciate contrast because it’s your greatest teacher of where you are of alignment with your desires, or how your strategies need to shift to get more of what you do want.
- Take breaks to reassess what you do and don’t want in a relationship and focus on yourself when needed (remember you are a mirror for love and whatever you are experiencing is a direct result of your point of attraction. Learn why and adapt.)
- Filter our new potential dates based on your values. You will find you may have fewer dates but you will have more successful relationships.
- Trust the process. Kim learned to trust herself and trust that there was someone out there who was her ideal partner. Be patient. Be smart. Be persistent. And by all means, trust your gut.
Congratulations Kim for following to your inner guidance and finding the right guy for you! I wish you all the happiness in the world. You are so deserving!
Here’s to love!
Release Fear. Think Clear. Get Into Gear.